Low libido is also known as generalized, acquired hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD). Low libido is a term used to describe a decrease in sex drive that can interfere with sexual activity. While low libido can cause tension in a relationship, fostering doubt and guilt in both partners, it can often be treated if the underlying cause is identified.
Why do I have low libido?
Well, first we need to figure out what exactly you mean when you say you have low libido. So let's get to the nitty-gritty. First, let's understand if you have trouble with DESIRE or AROUSAL or both. But what's the difference???? Read below to find out.
Desire has to do with how much we think about wanting sexual activity
Arousal is whether our bodies are able to respond physically to either mental or physical stimulation in a sexually pleasurable way.
So.... Do you struggle to desire sexual activity? (In the last three months have you had diminished thoughts or no thoughts and/or fantasies for sexual activity?). Y / N Do you struggle to feel aroused? (In the last three months have you had reduced lubrication when aroused or no lubrication? Do you have difficulty reaching orgasm, or are unable to orgasm? Does touch in a sexual situation feel pleasurable?) Y/ N Here are some more questions to get you closer to figuring out why you may be dealing with low libido. They're broken up into two categories. The first set of questions are for those of you who have experienced sexual desire and or arousal in the past. The second set of questions are for those of you who have always struggled with sexual desire or arousal, or both. First set:
Have you desired sexual activity in the past but find you don't anymore? Y/N
Have you been able to feel aroused sexually in the past but find it difficult or impossible now? Y/N
Have you been able to orgasm in the past but find it difficult or impossible now? Y/N
Did you enjoy being touched by a partner in the past but now you have an aversion to being touched, no desire to be touched, or no enjoyment from being touched by a partner? Y/N
Have you always struggled to desire/want sex? Y/N
Have you always struggled to feel aroused either physically or mentally during sexual activity?
Do you have an aversion to being touched, no desire to be touched, or no enjoyment from being touched by a partner?
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions:
Chances are something has either changed in your life and it's affecting your sexual functioning or you may have some deficiencies or some other genuine issue that is getting in the way of you experiencing sexual pleasure. The first thing to take note of. If you have been able to become aroused and orgasm in the past and you have an inkling that your sex life is suffering due to connection issues with your partner, you've lost the spark, you used to be responsive to their advances, and now...well not so much, and you still very much want to work on your sexy time..... I would highly (did I say highly?) recommend you read (or listen to on Audible) 'Come As You Are' by Emily Nagoski. If you feel as though you're way past that, then read on. While relationship issues can 100% affect how much pleasure you are able to experience, there are still a number of other things that can affect our desire and arousal. Below is a list of things that have been shown to decrease sexual desire and arousal. If you recognize a medication or issue in the lists below, take charge of your sexual health and seek out a professional sexual medical expert. Head to the Sexual Health Clinics page to find a specialist. *Do not settle for a doctor who does not specialize in this field. Most general physicians are not up to date on the latest sexual health medicine. It's important to make sure you are not misdiagnosed or given medication that is not right for you.....and that your time and money is not wasted!
Do you take any of the following?
Oral, patch, or ring contraception
Anti-depressant (especially SSRI), anti-anxiety, or anti-psychotic medication
Do you have any of the following issues?
Genital pain with sexual activity
Have been treated for endometriosis
Have been treated for infertility
Have been treated for uterine fibroids, excessive menstrual bleeding, or painful menstruation.
Have been treated for breast cancer, especially if you have been treated with hormone therapy
Have had a hysterectomy, especially if it includes the removal of one or both ovaries
Peri or post - menopausal
Have medical issues such as coronary artery disease, diabetes, metabolic syndrome, multiple sclerosis, peripheral neuropathy, spinal injury, or thyroid disease
Orgasm induced migraine
Unrelenting, unwanted genital arousal
Have been sexually abused
Weak erotic mind-body connection (Spend most of your time 'spectatoring' during sexual activity and find it hard to stay focussed on the immediate sensations you are experiencing).
The Orgasm Lab’s Resources Are Here To Help You And Your Low Libido
The Orgasm Lab was founded by Amy Nasseri as a way for women who struggle with sexual health issues like low libido. Come and discover the new ways science and sexual health medicine can help you enjoy more sexual pleasure. It all started with The Orgasm Lab Podcast. Where Amy told her own personal story of dealing with sexual dysfunction. Amy now spends her time interviewing the top experts in the sexual health field, getting the latest insight and advice on a range of sexual health issues including Low Libido. The best way to discover your pleasure is to give yourself the freedom to be in charge of it. So use our resources, learn from the experts, and advocate hard for your pleasure.